Grief isn’t linear! It isn’t predictable! It’s messy!
Mine isn’t the same as yours, and yours will look totally different than anyone else’s. It’s complicated and just plain hard.
You don’t get over it. You get through it – eventually. There is no time frame on grief. There is no end. It’s perpetual, yet ever changing.
You would give anything not to have to experience it, yet you would never want anyone else to go through it instead of you. It’s heart crushing, and you’d not wish it on your worst enemy.
Grief will change you! It turns you inside out, and you won’t recognize the new you. Neither will your loved ones and friends! Grief will steal your energy, your memory, your smile, and your desire to get out of bed!
There will always be the timeline of “before” and “after” …in every aspect of your every single day.
Grief will eventually touch every person. That’s a guarantee. No one will slip from its grasp.
Hopefully, the ones who have walked this path longer will be there to sit in the ashes with the those who find themselves devastated by its sudden attack.
Grief leaves in its wake, a hope that shows itself in the lives of the veteran travelers. Time has given them the gift of a well-worn path to living again in spite of their pain.
Take your time and be gentle with yourself. Allow yourself to grieve and feel the deepness of your loss. Just don’t get lost there. Your life journey continues, as hard as that is to accept when you are in the depths.
Soon, you will be the very person who can take the hand of someone else on this pathway. You will be the one to bring comfort in the way you were comforted yourself.
In your sadness, your deepest pain – know there is hope. There will be joy again. The pain will never go away, but it will lessen. Its grip will loosen enough to allow you to live a life your loved one would want for you.
Grief doesn’t win! That’s what you need to know! God has already won! He is still on the throne, and the tomb is still empty.
We do not know what to do, but our eyes are on you.”
2 Chronicles 20:12
Are you in the midst of Grief? Do you know someone who is? Do you have any words of comfort and encouragement to share? Let me know! Feel free to share the link to this post.
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